If anyone is reading this...stay off the goddamn drugs! They are seriously and extremely bad for you. They do all kinds of crazy things to your brain, like destroying receptors in your brain, and overwhelming your brain with a strong release of neuro-chemicals (if you will) that a lack thereof causes serious side effects like depression and...DEPRESSION!. Do you really want to be depressed?
"Cocaine is a hell of a drug" Rick James
I've had my fair share of bouts with depression, and I can tell you, it's not pretty. There is this general desire to turn to drugs and/or alcohol to remedy your extremely negative emotional state, but doing so only serves to exacerbate your condition. Although some would argue that it does help, the so-called "good" feelings you get from using drugs fades away like morning dew, and you are literally left scratching your head, wondering if doing more or drinking more will help (run-on sentence, I know). In fact, what really ends up happening is, you end up doing and/or drinking more, only to realize you're still depressed. I don't really need to say anymore as anyone should be able to understand that this inevitable leads to a cycle of masking depression with external substances.
I am no Eckhart Tolle or Deepak Chopra, and I am certainly not some M.D. or a psychologist with a phD, but I can tell you that relying on an external reality does not remedy an internal psychological state. No matter what drugs you take, and whatever comfort food you buy, if you are extremely un-satisfied with your life, you will always remember how unhappy you are, when the come-down hits or that sad song plays. The key to helping one rid themselves of depressing thought patterns, and negative self-talk, is to find happiness through the acceptance of your current circumstances. No matter how bad you think it is, it could be a whole lot worse, and so to be happy no matter what happens or has happened, is clearly something you owe to yourself. Everything happens for a reason. If you've just come out of a relationship, and you thought that person was the one, guess again. I mean, come on, there is usually someone better than your "ex" out there, and the t and the reason you haven't found this person is because you're too busy punishing yourself for the past, rather than looking forward to, and taking control of your future. You are the master of your own destiny. Nothing will ever come to you, unless you make the consistent effort to: 1. Forgive Yourself 2. Preserve your Self-Image 3. Keep Moving Foward. The above are all instrumental in helping you eliminate a negative mindset, and will be exactly what you need to find happiness.
Let's get a little bit deeper into this....
There are, in my opinion, three things (I shouldn't say things) but concepts that are vital to positive emotions and desirable emotional states...
1. Self-Talk
Self-Talk, put into layman terms, is exactly what it sounds like, i.e., it is the material that we feed our brain on a consistent basis. We, as human beings, are blessed to be one of the most intelligent species of the animal kingdom. Unfortunately, intelligence comes with a price. It is as much a blessing in disguise as it is a curse disguised as a blessing. What I mean to say is that because we are intelligent we know too much about ourselves to either validate or invalidate ourselves, based on what we believe to be the way(s) to be living our lives. The fact of the matter is, no one ever gets to decide the way you live your life, and further, what you accept into your life, except of course, you, yourself. That means no matter how bad of a mistake you've made, or how unattractive you assume you may be in relation to the cultural expectations of what a "Perfect 10" looks like, you can still be as happy or appreciative of your life, as if you were someone who had everything. In other words, it is possible for someone who has absolutely nothing to be as satisfied with their life as someone who has everything. The key to achieving this is through positive reinforcement, through self-talk. There are essentially two forms of self-talk; one being positive self-talk, the other being negative self-talk.
Negative self-talk is responsible for incapacitating our potential. Examples of negative self-talk include, but are not limited to: "I am not good enough", "I am an awful person", "I will never be able to accomplish this" etc. Basically, anything that you tell yourself, that ends up becoming self-limiting, or stunts your potential growth, can fit under the category of negative self-talk. This is obviously counter-productive to overcoming depression, stress, or simply striving to be the best you can be at anything in life. Instead, you want to be strictly focused on positive self-talk. Daily affirmations such as: "I am good enough", "I forgive myself for my mistakes and I am still an amazing person", "I love myself", "I love my life" and so on and so forth. From what little I have learned from the field of hypnosis, what Yoda once said is actually very true...
"Do or do not, there is no try" Yoda
Thus, when you are feeding your mind with positive reinforcement, be mindful of telling yourself things that will open up a grey area in the probability of your success. Do not use words like "try" or "maybe". It is either "I will" or "I will not" or "I can" or "I cannot".
Tell yourself today: I love myself, and I can get over my depression. I will be happy with myself no matter what. I love my life.
Moving forward, I am sure you are excited as I am to be exploring the next concept in the path to positivity.., So let us get right into it...
2. Self- Image
This next concept somewhat goes hand-in-hand with the one I discussed earlier: Self-Talk. Because Self-Image can be constructed through the power of Self-Talk, it is no wonder I could not discuss one without touching on the other. Now we've learned through self-talk, that we can and should always see ourselves in a positive light. And further, we should be consistent in our efforts to ensure that we compliment ourselves whenever we can. These positive affirmations can also be used to create a positive self-image.
Self-Image is the way in which we view ourselves in our head. I believe it was Maxwell Maltz in his book called "Psycho-Cybernetics" that explained the concept of Self-Image the best. He states that the manner is which we view ourselves in our head directly influences the way we act in the real world. In other words, if we are consistently focused on our insecurities, then by nature, our insecurities will manifest itself, one way or the other, in our body language or our lifestyle choices. For example, if I criticize myself as someone who is incapable of being a really good car salesman, this form of appropriation will guarantee that I indeed, shall be, a really bad salesman. Likewise, if I was to imagine myself as someone who was really good at selling cars, then my habits, attitudes, and beliefs will inevitably align themselves to make my mental image my reality. This idea can also be explained by theories such as the Self-Fulfilling Prophecy, or Rene Descartes Cogito Ergo Sum (or in layman terms: I think, therefore, I am). As someone who has made a living out of teaching these epistemologies, if not ideologies, once said: "What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve"
Thus, the goal today should be conceiving for yourself a self-image that is both positive and constructive. It is about being compassionate with yourself, and not trying to find blame in yourself and other people. It is about understanding that everybody makes mistakes and that even the happiest and most successful person today can tell you the story of how they walked through the valley of the shadow of hell. We have all been through catastrophes, tragedies, and honestly, it gets better the moment you believe that you're capable of greater things. As long as you hold and envision a positive and essentially, the ideal image of yourself, in your mind and you hold onto that no matter how thick the fog on your road gets, nothing will get in the way of what you're destined to be.
Alright! So we made it this far, and we've covered two concepts that are fundamentally important to staying positive, and rather than flood your mind with too much information, I will withdraw from talking about the third concept immediately. Since the third concept is essentially the topic of my next article, I will tie these two articles together, rather than writing so much in one article that you fall asleep before I get to finish. I will leave this video below, in closing, I would like to thank the people that accidentally fall onto my blog and read the entries. I appreciate everyone who took the time to read and comment below.
"Cocaine is a hell of a drug" Rick James
I've had my fair share of bouts with depression, and I can tell you, it's not pretty. There is this general desire to turn to drugs and/or alcohol to remedy your extremely negative emotional state, but doing so only serves to exacerbate your condition. Although some would argue that it does help, the so-called "good" feelings you get from using drugs fades away like morning dew, and you are literally left scratching your head, wondering if doing more or drinking more will help (run-on sentence, I know). In fact, what really ends up happening is, you end up doing and/or drinking more, only to realize you're still depressed. I don't really need to say anymore as anyone should be able to understand that this inevitable leads to a cycle of masking depression with external substances.
I am no Eckhart Tolle or Deepak Chopra, and I am certainly not some M.D. or a psychologist with a phD, but I can tell you that relying on an external reality does not remedy an internal psychological state. No matter what drugs you take, and whatever comfort food you buy, if you are extremely un-satisfied with your life, you will always remember how unhappy you are, when the come-down hits or that sad song plays. The key to helping one rid themselves of depressing thought patterns, and negative self-talk, is to find happiness through the acceptance of your current circumstances. No matter how bad you think it is, it could be a whole lot worse, and so to be happy no matter what happens or has happened, is clearly something you owe to yourself. Everything happens for a reason. If you've just come out of a relationship, and you thought that person was the one, guess again. I mean, come on, there is usually someone better than your "ex" out there, and the t and the reason you haven't found this person is because you're too busy punishing yourself for the past, rather than looking forward to, and taking control of your future. You are the master of your own destiny. Nothing will ever come to you, unless you make the consistent effort to: 1. Forgive Yourself 2. Preserve your Self-Image 3. Keep Moving Foward. The above are all instrumental in helping you eliminate a negative mindset, and will be exactly what you need to find happiness.
Let's get a little bit deeper into this....
There are, in my opinion, three things (I shouldn't say things) but concepts that are vital to positive emotions and desirable emotional states...
1. Self-Talk
Self-Talk, put into layman terms, is exactly what it sounds like, i.e., it is the material that we feed our brain on a consistent basis. We, as human beings, are blessed to be one of the most intelligent species of the animal kingdom. Unfortunately, intelligence comes with a price. It is as much a blessing in disguise as it is a curse disguised as a blessing. What I mean to say is that because we are intelligent we know too much about ourselves to either validate or invalidate ourselves, based on what we believe to be the way(s) to be living our lives. The fact of the matter is, no one ever gets to decide the way you live your life, and further, what you accept into your life, except of course, you, yourself. That means no matter how bad of a mistake you've made, or how unattractive you assume you may be in relation to the cultural expectations of what a "Perfect 10" looks like, you can still be as happy or appreciative of your life, as if you were someone who had everything. In other words, it is possible for someone who has absolutely nothing to be as satisfied with their life as someone who has everything. The key to achieving this is through positive reinforcement, through self-talk. There are essentially two forms of self-talk; one being positive self-talk, the other being negative self-talk.
Negative self-talk is responsible for incapacitating our potential. Examples of negative self-talk include, but are not limited to: "I am not good enough", "I am an awful person", "I will never be able to accomplish this" etc. Basically, anything that you tell yourself, that ends up becoming self-limiting, or stunts your potential growth, can fit under the category of negative self-talk. This is obviously counter-productive to overcoming depression, stress, or simply striving to be the best you can be at anything in life. Instead, you want to be strictly focused on positive self-talk. Daily affirmations such as: "I am good enough", "I forgive myself for my mistakes and I am still an amazing person", "I love myself", "I love my life" and so on and so forth. From what little I have learned from the field of hypnosis, what Yoda once said is actually very true...
Thus, when you are feeding your mind with positive reinforcement, be mindful of telling yourself things that will open up a grey area in the probability of your success. Do not use words like "try" or "maybe". It is either "I will" or "I will not" or "I can" or "I cannot".
Tell yourself today: I love myself, and I can get over my depression. I will be happy with myself no matter what. I love my life.
Moving forward, I am sure you are excited as I am to be exploring the next concept in the path to positivity.., So let us get right into it...
2. Self- Image
This next concept somewhat goes hand-in-hand with the one I discussed earlier: Self-Talk. Because Self-Image can be constructed through the power of Self-Talk, it is no wonder I could not discuss one without touching on the other. Now we've learned through self-talk, that we can and should always see ourselves in a positive light. And further, we should be consistent in our efforts to ensure that we compliment ourselves whenever we can. These positive affirmations can also be used to create a positive self-image.
Self-Image is the way in which we view ourselves in our head. I believe it was Maxwell Maltz in his book called "Psycho-Cybernetics" that explained the concept of Self-Image the best. He states that the manner is which we view ourselves in our head directly influences the way we act in the real world. In other words, if we are consistently focused on our insecurities, then by nature, our insecurities will manifest itself, one way or the other, in our body language or our lifestyle choices. For example, if I criticize myself as someone who is incapable of being a really good car salesman, this form of appropriation will guarantee that I indeed, shall be, a really bad salesman. Likewise, if I was to imagine myself as someone who was really good at selling cars, then my habits, attitudes, and beliefs will inevitably align themselves to make my mental image my reality. This idea can also be explained by theories such as the Self-Fulfilling Prophecy, or Rene Descartes Cogito Ergo Sum (or in layman terms: I think, therefore, I am). As someone who has made a living out of teaching these epistemologies, if not ideologies, once said: "What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve"
Thus, the goal today should be conceiving for yourself a self-image that is both positive and constructive. It is about being compassionate with yourself, and not trying to find blame in yourself and other people. It is about understanding that everybody makes mistakes and that even the happiest and most successful person today can tell you the story of how they walked through the valley of the shadow of hell. We have all been through catastrophes, tragedies, and honestly, it gets better the moment you believe that you're capable of greater things. As long as you hold and envision a positive and essentially, the ideal image of yourself, in your mind and you hold onto that no matter how thick the fog on your road gets, nothing will get in the way of what you're destined to be.
Alright! So we made it this far, and we've covered two concepts that are fundamentally important to staying positive, and rather than flood your mind with too much information, I will withdraw from talking about the third concept immediately. Since the third concept is essentially the topic of my next article, I will tie these two articles together, rather than writing so much in one article that you fall asleep before I get to finish. I will leave this video below, in closing, I would like to thank the people that accidentally fall onto my blog and read the entries. I appreciate everyone who took the time to read and comment below.
